Here at Beating The Beast,
we always try to
foster that 'family' feel, so people are always welcome to come, go,
stay, and give support. We want members to always feel, even though
they may have moved on mood wise, that they belong.
Instead of us
going on and on, telling you what we are about, we'll let the
membership speak for us.
May I be the first to unofficially
welcome you to our website. I say our because even though I'm not a
moderator or administrator, Btb has become mine over the past few
months in the same way it will soon become yours too. We are a family
here. We laugh, we share, we hold each other up when we are down and
we keep each other motivated. It's a pretty wonderful place we have.
I found Btb a few months ago in my darkest hours of depression. I was
looking for some reason not to kill myself. I'd isolated myself from
my friends and family, quit taking care of myself, and just quit
caring. I knew I needed help, but had never sought out support let
alone professional help. Btb not only gave me that reason to keep
going, my friends here supported and directed me into finding
professional help and beating this beast.
I can honestly say, I'm alive today as a direct result of the
friendship and support I found here. I still have up days and down
days but I always know that I have someplace and some people that I
can turn to when I need a friend.
I have found the support of
the people I have met online invaluable. They have over the last year
convinced me that my life is worth living. I have taken comfort in the
fact that they too do silly things, that they get frustrated over
inabilities, that they themselves continue to fight the beast but also
give so generously to others to help them with their fight too. Just
that feeling of support. I can post anything here and be understood,
things that 'normal' people simply would not understand, or dismiss as
I used to belong to some
depression message boards and never felt quite like I fit in.....
Finally BtB was born and I began to slowly open up to what was at that
time, a small membership base. Slowly, post by post, it seemed
that no matter how dark and twisted my thoughts were, no one turned
away from me or ridiculed me.... I was finally for the first
time ever, accepted and understood. I've found a great number of
friends here and loads of compassion, support and understanding.
It's unlike anything I have ever seen before....
Beast to me means Freedom to be myself, Real people fighting the same
battle, Incredible strength, Empathy, No nonsense advice, Distraction,
Support, Help, Insane threads, Partnerships. added together it boils
down to FRIENDSHIP....and for me that's everything.
BtB is the one place I can go and know I'm safe and
won't be judged. It's a way I can meet new and wonderful people and a
place I know I won't be alone, ever. It's also my rock that keeps me
from falling to far into depression and a way I know I can help
others. It's like another home to me, and every member is my friend
and they all are like family to me. This is what BtB means to me.
This is my life line sometimes my only one in times of
emotional crisis. There is always someone here to listen and give
support. Along the way, I have met some of the most fantastic people
from all walks of life. I would be profoundly upset if this site ever
BTB is a place where I can come and vent. It has helped
me get my feelings out when there was no one around to listen. I was
never good at getting them out even when there were people around to
listen. It also makes me feel safe. I know that I will never be harmed
or attacked here and that is a nice feeling. I have developed
friendships and can call BTBer's my family. It is a nice feeling.
To me, BtB is a family. I check in
several times a day to see how the rest of my "brothers" and "sisters"
are doing. To see if they have offered me any sage advice in response
to my pleas or if I have any knowledge that may be of use to them.
It's a second home, but one where I don't have to worry about being
judged or put down for my feelings. Nobody here tells me what I
"should" be doing or how I "should" be feeling. They just accept me as
I am. It's a tremendously warm feeling. especially when I'm in crisis.
BtB is the knot at the end of my rope when I think I can't hang on any
Umm, what BtB means to me, being a
newer member, is a place to vent, share, & E-shoulders to lean on. A
place to know that we're not alone in all this. It is also a place to
discuss medications , which is very important to me. Within my story
on the experiences page, I can't undermine how much of a mind spin it
was (for me) to get involved with a 'yahoo-groups' site that was SO
against all meds, and had ME believe that they we're all poison, and
that I was forever changed (poisoned) as a result of taking a
particular med. I know that I am off topic here, however, what I
attempting to say is that, having stumbled across BtB, was a much
needed outlet for a very hard time in my life path. A place like this,
reassures me that #1 It's all gonna be okay, #2 we can all learn by
sharing with one another. Also, this is a place to interact with
others, albeit over the web, but what isn't web-based anymore - LOL.
Reason I bring this up, is that when depression was at (what I think)
it worse, interaction with anyone was null. Coming here, seeing fresh
faces to share with, reading other experiences, the basic interaction
with others, has meant the world to me. Though, like all of us, we
have layers, I've shared - but not my whole life path's ups & downs,
for it is still unfolding. The best thing about BtB, imho, is the
support we get from others. Sometimes, all we need is an affirming
word from somebody else...When RL support system is failing, which
mine seems to have, BtB is a place of comfort. I like reading 'what
its like' for others, to know that I'm SO not alone in this. It's easy
to forget that this is a depression support site, isn't this how we
ALL really got here in the first place? BtB has been a Godsend, imho.
For me it is the
feeling of one ship. OK I know that sounds really corny, but
that is what we have here. Depression really tears you apart &
you get so self focused that it is hard to remember that there's other
people out there who are going through exactly the same thing as you,
or have felt the same in the past. It is a good place to offload
& nobody is out to judge you. I have never regretted the day I
came & joined because right from the start I had total acceptance &
that means the world to me.
Ed the chow hound:
BTB is without
doubt one of the greatest experiences of my life it has enabled me to
grow in maturity and wisdom and transcend my own small self centered
world of depression.
BTB has allowed me to become part of something greater than myself and
contribute to the betterment of my fellow men and women.
BTB is my safety valve and life line that connects me with reality.
BTB is my family of choice and meets many of my emotional needs that
might otherwise go unmet.
BtB helped me through, and is
still helping me through, perhaps the worst time in my life. When I
first came here, I was rebellious, I had been forced into therapy and
medication by a loving, devoted husband. But here, I slowly came to
see the need for such treatment, that things could in fact be
different than they had been for the last 14 years. I was relieved to
find out that other people felt the same way, that they had the same
concerns and impulses. I can help other people who may be farther down
than me, and see the light at the end of the tunnel by watching those
who are recovering. The support here is amazing, and this is truly a
safe environment for those who are hurting, or confused, or angry, or
In my opinion, the
most important thing about BtB is that it gives people suffering from
depression a safe, supportive place to discuss their feelings with
people who have BEEN THERE. As loving and concerned and supportive as
our friends and family in RL may be, there are some things about
depression that you just cant *get* if you haven't lived through them
yourself. And knowing you're not alone, that other people have been
through similar experiences and survived, can make a huge difference.
When I was very depressed, felt
totally alone and was without hope, I desperately needed to talk to
someone but I was convinced there was no one out there who would
understand just what I was going through. I didn't know I had
depression, I knew nothing about depression, and I didn't
realise how far down I was. I was in my own little dark hole and I
thought no one cared or would ever care.
Then I found by chance a
depression forum and I found BTB. For the first time in my life people
listened to me and my problems and I realised I wasn't alone anymore.
They knew so much about depression. They understood what i was going
through. I found others who were just like me, I found people who had
gone through depression and got better.
I didn't feel alone anymore and
Thanks to BTB, I did go and talk to someone in RL as well , got
medical help and now due to the never ending support I'm so much
BtB helps people
like me everyday, I'm just one of many. what is BTB? Its people
just like me all helping each other.
The rumble of
thunder cascades down a mountain side overwhelming the valley below
with torrential rain, lightening, destruction. But there is a force
that pushes through, fights the storm so that you know one day, some
day a change in this horrific weather will have to come and the sun
will shine again. That's what BtB has been to me, that force on the
part of my brain that wants to believe the storm will never end, the
pain will go on forever and just get worse. BtB and the people who are
here have helped me remember the sun will shine again one day, in
spite of myself! BtB has allowed me to give a real voice to the little
cowering terrified inner child who has never been able to grow beyond
the awful pain she experienced. As I work to bring together that
little girl and some of her scared inner siblings with the me of
today, BtB is a safety net, a place of security. Even if I go away for
awhile, I know it is here, waiting for me to return. BtB to me means
When I first discovered, and began to
read some of the posts on this site, I was in a very dark, and scary
place. I had crashed and burned at work, in a very public, and
embarrassing way. I had just gone out on tempory disability.
My days consisted of crying, fearfulness, and many trips to
coordinating specialists. I didn't, and couldn't reach out to my
non-cyber friends. They wouldn't have understood.
I stumbled upon B the B totally by coincidence. (Are there really any
coincidences in life?) It was like finding a life-raft or life-line.
Here were people who welcomed me, supported me, understood me, and
totally didn't judge me. Wow!
I can't say enough good things about this site. I have never had a
negative experience here. So for anyone reading these posts, don't be
afraid, or nervous. You will find friendship, understanding, and
During my first depression, there was
no web. I don't know how I possibly survived.
I love BtB, I feel totally safe here. I think it is the best
depression board on the internet (I'm a member of a few). Everyone is
friendly and supportive. There are folders for light-hearted stuff
such as "Whatever" and folders for Spirituality, and Art, and for SI
and General Depression. And Meds. It's JUST PERFECT.
I feel like I have good relationships with many on the board even
though we have never met.
I cannot say that about any other board (depression or not) that I
have been a member of.
There are so many compassionate people here, it's really totally
unbelievable to me the support you can get here.
I recommend it for any depressed person.
I ended up here after searching for a
long time. I didn't want to be baffled by science, I wanted to be
understood. So here I am.
I am understood here. I am supported, and when able support others. I
am not judged for being ill. I am myself here, flaws and all.
Here I am, I am safe, I am understood. I am me.
find it's a safe place to discuss with people that understand. I'm a
newer member and I have found it great. It has helped me through
rough times and still is helping me. I found great support here
off everyone and when able I try to support others. Its a place
where I can be me
It's where I can
say what I really think and not worry about what people will think of
this site. oh how this site has helped me, it's kept me alive, kept me
sane, made me know that other people know how I'm feeling, know what
I'm going though, people who understand and don't judge or take sides
because they don't see it from your point of view. it's my sanctuary
and safe house. my place to vent, and be heard. the one site that I'll
constantly go back to because it's full of loving, caring people who
want nothing but for you to feel better. This site <3